Part 1

Been doing the one-two combo of sushi to lounge date for awhile now. I originally got the idea from you when you wrote that post about breaking girls hearts and you said “…you remember her trying her first bite of sushi with you…” . Anyhow, I thought I’d vouch for the above system that it does work, that starting with sushi is actually a good way to have a cheap date with alcohol (thanks to saki) under the pretext of just having some seafood. Also, here is something I do that might work well for others. I like to surprise girls about the sushi date. So what I’ll do is tell them I’ll take them “someplace nice”, and that she needs to be on time because “we don’t want to be late for our reservations.” Yes, even though sushi bars are rarely crowded, you can easily call them the day of the date and make reservations. That way your table will have a little “reserved” card on it and she’ll think you’re putting in waaaay more work than you actually did. It also builds anticipation over what the date is, and keeps her excited for the date.

Part 2

This seems right, but my problem with it is that it is basically saying the guy should be completely reactive to the woman. Of course you have to take action when you feel it is time, but I don't think most guys have enough experience to know when it is the right time. So it seems like "unnaturally" pushing the interaction is the natural thing for the guy to do in order to learn what he can and can't get away with. I guess your point though is that the end result should be that you rely completely on your intuition? July 16, 2010 12:34:00 PM EST Assanova said... Correct, Isaac. You should rely on your intuition more than anything. It may sound reaction, but there is only so much non-reactiveness that is tolerable. If a guy is trying to be all loud and funny when the girl is just looking to chill, then you're going to have problems. There's a nice middle ground between being completely reactive and not being reactive at all. React to the bigger picture of the social interaction.

Part 3

Some fashion advice for short muscular guys would be appreciated. Thanks ASF on August 23, 2011 11:02 pm Great stuff VK, looking forward to the rest. Branford on August 29, 2011 1:31 am VK you da man. Thanks for this series. I have been dabbling in online and getting a fair number of dates. It is tough being brand new to DC. This may be the best first date advice I’ve ever read. The stuff out there is just atrocious. Original Gangster on September 2, 2011 4:41 am Excellent post, very well articulated. I have never really thought about having a “conversational outline” of different questions/answers and topics already planned out. This is pretty deep shit. I will definitely read the sequel posts when I got more time.